The Truth about Dads

Written by Dan Seaborn on . Posted in Perspective

father7Okay dads of all ages and stages, I've got some questions for you to answer on this Father's Day.

What's the best memory you created with your family this year? How did you influence your kids to be a good example in this world over the last couple of months? What would your kids say about you as a dad since last Father's day? What are some things that you look forward to doing with your family during the rest of the summer?

Whether your children are adults living on their own or still at home roosting in the nest, what you do influences who they are or will become. These questions are designed to be reflective because I want us, as dads, to understand the incredible importance we play in the lives of our children. In a world where some groups increasingly talk about the devaluing of fathers, I want you to know straight up that as a man and a father your investment in your child will add value to their life.

In Dr. James Dobson's book, Bringing up Boys, one of the issues he discusses is the image of men in society. He uses the example of greeting cards and points out how you can easily find cards that diminish or make fun of men whether the issue is balding, their weight, or failure to complete a home improvement project. It is acceptable in society to give a man a card that attacks his vanity or masculinity, but you rarely find cards that address those issues regarding women. It would be social suicide.

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The same is true in television shows and movies. Men are often the butt of the jokes or they are portrayed as passive, irresponsible, self-centered, or just plain fools. And while some of those characteristics may be true of some men, it's not the majority even though it feels that way because of the marketing of this image.

I remember one sitcom I watched where the wife kept making bets with the children about what daddy would forget to do. One example involved them betting whether daddy would notice mommy's new haircut or remember to bring home the milk she asked him to get. Of course he's unaware of this activity until they all start laughing. The wife eventually realizes that her little game is hurtful to her husband because of how disrespectful it is to him, especially in front of his children.

I think this male bashing contributes to why some men have difficulty thinking they can make a difference. They feel defeated before they even get out of bed.

But don't listen to all the naysayers and hear this truth. You matter significantly to your children. If you don't feel you've set a good example up to this point today, then make a decision to change it now.

Don't worry about creating something monumental or expensive to do with your children. They just want your time and attention. Play catch in the backyard. Be a guest at your child's tea party. Read them a book before they go to sleep. Watch one of their favorite movies together. Don't do it just today but make every day Father's Day.

Fatherhood is more than just a paycheck and a heavy hand. It's an opportunity to help shape your child's life through experiences and memories that will transcend over a lifetime. Have fun and and start today to make memories with your family.

Happy Father's Day.
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Dan Seaborn
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Dan Seaborn is the founder of Winning At Home, Inc., an organization designed to assist and encourage people of all ages and stages of family development. As a featured speaker at churches and large-scale events such as marriage conferences, corporate functions, and university assemblies, Dan Seaborn has earned recognition as a powerful and passionate communicator. Through practical illustrations and memorable real-life examples, he encourages individuals and families to lead Christ-centered homes.

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