Battered and Bruised

Written by Dan Seaborn on . Posted in Local

dan seabornDo you have days where your face feels swollen, your eyes are like slits from being half shut and your body aches all over? You feel beat up and yet no one has laid a hand on you? It's one of those days where either a group of negative issues has been piling up or you are emerging from a litany of several days where you've dealt with very difficult issues. Emotionally, you feel battered and bruised.

Some of us do a good job of hiding it. We may cake on a little make up to brighten our face. We wear a bright colored shirt to try and offset the dark feeling in our soul. We laugh but it's just a sound not an expression of joy. Some people reading this article right now are dealing with a battered and bruised spirit. And sadly, in many situations, the source is a complex family situation. Even if the culprit is outside your family, the effect it has on you will affect your family. That's why I want to offer a few suggestions that may help encourage you through the process.

One of the things that helps me to cope during this time is to know I am not alone. My friends, members of my family and co-workers have all faced dark days and have for the most part emerged victorious but for some reason we tend to forget that when we are in the eye of the storm. So remember you are not the first to feel battered and bruised.

Secondly, it is important to have someone around who can talk to you and encourage you. Ideally it would be someone who has been through a similar situation. The problem is that when you are in the midst of this kind of turmoil, your tendency might be to move away from people. I know situations like this tend to make me feel as though I'm sitting in the bottom of a barrel, withdrawn from everyone. People seem far away and out of reach and solitude becomes my best friend. If this describes you too, then this is the time you need to grab a hold of the hand of someone who is willing to help lift you out of those depths.

It's always amazing to me how much better I feel when I do talk to someone. I think we spend so much time in our early years fiercely seeking independence that as we grow older it becomes uncomfortable to ask for help, and yet it's what we need the most. If a friend or family member is not the answer, then seek guidance from professional counselors, toll-free help lines or somebody equipped from your church. We have several counselors at Winning At Home that have assisted me during some of my most challenging moments. For me personally, I also seek wisdom and direction through prayer and my own personal faith.

What is it for you? I want to encourage you to take some time to establish some kind of mechanism or method to help you get through those battered and bruised moments. I hope these little tips will at least get you thinking so that you can forgo the makeup, throw away the crazy shirts and face your opponent head on. It's critical that you take some next steps, go forward and be ready to lift yourself out of the bottom of that barrel.
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Dan Seaborn
Dan Seaborn is the founder of Winning At Home, Inc., an organization designed to assist and encourage people of all ages and stages of family development. As a featured speaker at churches and large-scale events such as marriage conferences, corporate functions, and university assemblies, Dan Seaborn has earned recognition as a powerful and passionate communicator. Through practical illustrations and memorable real-life examples, he encourages individuals and families to lead Christ-centered homes.

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